The Heart Of It | Compliments

howing love can be done in many different ways. Everyone has a different love language, but at the end of the day it's received and appreciated the most when that love simply does. It's active and real. One of my love languages is words of affirmation. It's when the words 'I love you' are spoken through a compliment. My favorite form of proving that someone loves me is through kind, encouraging words.

I can remember several of the sweetest compliments I've been given in the best, and all of them made my day. So because it's my love language, I also asked myself how many other's have this as well? Receiving compliments is wonderful, but there's also something very rewarding in giving them too.To me, the beauty of compliments is the ability to view other people's strengths. It's the opportunity we have to build one another up.

When was the last time you gave someone a compliment? I find myself thinking awesome things about people like 'your such a hard worker,' 'I love how great your photography skills are, can't believe you're self taught,' or 'you give me inspiration to be a better blogger,' yet I don't always say so out loud. It's such an easy thing to do, and it can be done in so many ways such as in person, or typed in any format! It easily takes 2 mins flat to empower someone, and make their day.

I encourage you to reach out to someone you know and share ways that you see them striving in their abilities, character, or work place. I mean it can be the girl behind the cash register at the mall, your best friend, or a new person your introduced to - see how you feel afterwards!

FIVE STEREOTYPES OF BEING SINGLE

have found that I love attending weddings. They truly are my favorite, and being a bridesmaid is probably what I'll live for in college haha. I love being able to be apart of the whole journey, and watch the couple fall in love with each other through their dating stages. Everything romance will get me every time, it's just a fact because that's who I am, and honestly I'm fine with that.

Even with that being said, it's times like those when I hear about amazing love stories, watch it happen in public, see my friends eyes light up, or when they walk down the isle that I'm reminded that I don't have that in my life yet. I'm a 20 year old college girl who has never had a boyfriend. Flings and crushes yes, but that's not the same because I never called them mine. The feelings of being single are one's that pop up every now and then, mostly because truthfully I am secure in myself. I recognize that a relationship won't cure anything. I don't need a boyfriend to be happy.

Yet, I still deal with an environment around me that doesn't feel the same. So naturally I have to explain my reasons for not seeming interested to find someone. Then comes the judgement, accusations, and miscommunication when dating has becomes the conversation topic among my friends and society in general. In our culture today is it really hard to believe that a commitment isn't something every girl is ready for? Well, in case you're like me who is still single and tired of explaining her self than keep reading below. Here are some stereotypes that our society seems to get wrong every single time.

1. Too high of standards. 
Oh boy does this one hurt me the most. Ever heard your list or standards are too ideal and not reality? How can any man score a perfect 10? True. However, I am not ashamed of my "list." Because without one I wouldn't have any direction in the type of guy I need, want, and would like to pursue. I keep a list of standards, not because looks are the most important but as a reminder to chose someone with the right characteristic traits. I am not single because I want the most attractive guy around who sings and drives a hot car. I am single because my list of standards allows me to wait and search for the right one, the one I know the Lord will point me to. 

2. Too picky. 
This goes along with the high standards concept, but let me state once again...looks aren't everything contrary to belief. Perhaps there are many people out there who are picky, but is that suppose to be a fault? It's better than being desperate. 

3. No experience = no knowledge. 
This is probably the biggest lie out there. Singleness isn't because someone doesn't have a past full of lessons and know how's, but rather a choice. Experience in past relationships won't help anyone catch another love interest. You don't have to have been with someone to know what your looking for in that ideal relationship material. 

4. Wrong priorities. 
Just because your single doesn't mean your selfish, a workaholic, or too crazy with your girlfriends on a Friday night. It means that you have a life, with priorities that are important and essential for yourself. Perhaps a commitment isn't something one can handle, and therefore aren't ready to be there for another person in a relationship.  

5. Such a planner. 
Boy to people laugh when I tell them my plan in my early twenties. They give me that smirk, tilt their head, raise the eyebrow, and remind me that God can change my plans within seconds. Yes, I realize that. But, that doesn't mean a girl can dream right? What's so harmful about already pinning wedding ideas to my Pinterest board, or thinking of future little girl names, or knowing I don't plan on getting married in college. I'd rather make plans and have goals than never know what I'm looking, waiting, or striving for in the future. 

COCONUT LEMON LIME SUGAR SCRUB

oday I'm so excited to share this DIY sugar scrub with you all! I can officially cross this off my summer bucket list, as I wanted to try out a summer inspired scrub to keep my beauty category alive! It just so happens to be the perfect way to have those smooth summer legs as well! This one smells soooo good, so if you try it let me know in the comments, you'll love it!

You'll Need...

1 cup of sugar 

4 drops of lemon essential oil 

3 tbs coconut oil 

1 tsp lemon juice 

1 tsp lime juice 

One Easy Step...

I literally just mix all of these ingredients into a bowl and stir it up. Best thing about sugar scrubs is that they take minutes to make. For the coconut oil I always melt mine before pouring it in, because then it will combine better. I've made some scrubs in the past, and have to say I love mine more grainy so I used less coconut oil this time and I completely felt a difference while using it! Easy peasy! 

BABA COFFEE IN CARLSBAD

aba Coffee is the cutest coffee shop I've been to yet! It's located in Carlsbad, CA on state street. Inside it's filled with natural light, and cute little bar top tables to study. My mom took me over the weekend and it was so fun to just sit and chat. I ordered my usual lol, a black iced tea and donut!


I absolutely love Carlsbad, I've always said I could seriously live there. One of these days I'll have to put together a little guide for this awesome beach town, because there are so many places left on my list to visit.

Believe it or not, I actually don't have much to say in today's post. I found this quote on Pinterest today that really made me wonder so I'll leave you with it as well..."You are not the reflection of those that can't love you."